I felt immense pressure to wear a dress for our photos in Paris. Not from my husband or family, but from myself. If you search ‘photos in Paris’, ‘family photos in Paris’, or anything related to photos in Paris you are inundated with beautiful photos of women in dresses. Yes, there are those few that have jeans on, however, they are few and far between. Most women have these beautiful long flowing dresses with the Eiffel tower in the background. I would be so embarrassed if you could actually see my search engine. Not to mention the amount of time I spent talking to J (my husband) about what kind of dress, color, length, neckline… the list goes on. The man deserves an award for all the ridiculousness I made him deal with leading up to said photos. As you all know, he was the one who wanted to take them in the first place…right? Right.
The pressure. The pressure that we put on ourselves is truly incredible when you really think about it. Social media hasn’t helped either. Of course, there isn’t anything wrong with social media platforms and there isn’t anything wrong with wanting to look beautiful, especially when it’s for a once in a lifetime trip. However, what is wrong is that the pressure can absolutely consume us. Again, the search engine and conversations with J. Totally embarrassing and totally unnecessary. Take time to be able to take a step back and think about what you are thinking about. Is it really all that important? Should it be captivating your thoughts and actions as often as it is?
I don’t need to go into a “you are beautiful just the way you are” segment. Frankly, you’ve heard it, I’ve heard it. It doesn’t always help. Just take off the pressure. Whatever it may be. Clothing, lifestyle, make-up, food preparation…do what you do best and do what makes you feel best. Social media doesn’t determine who you are. You determine who you are. While you’re at it- make sure you know who you are in Christ.
For the record. I’m glad I wore the jeans. May not have been quite as romantic looking as I had envisioned, but I venture to say I look OK. Better than ok. I’ve got the edgy/classy look going and the Eiffel tower is romantic all on its own. So, to be completely cliche, you do you. Be confident in who you are and who God made you to be. And work on not feeling the pressure that no one but yourself is putting on you. LET IT GO.
P.S. A good dress is always a good idea too. Case in point. Photo below. Totally romantic. Cliche again, you do you.